Is Facebook Killing Your Mojo?
By Belisa Vranich
Sure, social networks like MySpace and Facebook give you access to more girls than the old analog world of generations past. Sadly, though, these young ladies may be more digitally privy than you. And they may be looking at your online profile right now, only to conclude that … you’re a jerk.
Example: Think an ambiguous relationship status makes you mysterious? Well, nope. Actually, a girl eyeing this immediately thinks you’re hiding something or someone -- or that you just want to keep your options open.
Here are five more things she may perceive as a red flag, and here’s how to avoid them:
TMI
You had a disagreement with your best buddy, hate your boss and can’t get bigger calves no matter what you do at the gym. And every online “friend” you have knows it. Because you told them so.
The about-face: Really, keep it inside. To hook a girl, you need to keep a few secrets, or at least try not to seem like a whiney pessimist. Pour your heart out after you've been dating for a few months -- not on your wall. She may still think you whine but at least she’ll feel special that you whine to her.
Compromising Profile Photos
They show you can't grow up, you're not relationship material and you’re probably $10K in credit card debt because you put your vices -- like those allegedly awesome rims in albums No. 1, 2 and 3 -- on your card at a cool 27 percent APR.
The about-face: Swap these pictures out for something a little more conservative, such as something that actually, and accurately, features you -- at a time when you’re not puking, fighting or wearing someone’s boxers on your head.
Constant Status Updates
It looks like you have no life. Seriously. If you do 60 quizzes per day and comment on everyone's pictures, you’re probably unemployed or not the backbone of the company you say you are.
The about-face: Even if you do spend your weekends playing online backgammon, you can at least appear to be busy by curbing the urge to update every hour on the hour. And please wean yourself off the "Which Family Guy character are you?" quizzes.
A Defaced Wall
Your buddy posts the following message on your wall: “You’re the man! I couldn’t believe you and bowling babe last night in the parking lot!” The girl of your dreams sees this. She now knows the deal and wants nothing to do with you.
The about-face: Deactivate your wall or restrict who can view it.
Alibi-busting Photos
You tell your girl you were visiting your sick grandma last weekend, when you were actually at a party with your ex. Once those bash pictures hit Facebook -- especially if you’re tagged in any of them -- your cover’s blown.
The about-face: Change your settings so you’re notified whenever anyone tags you and can un-tag yourself ASAP. (Or, you know, stop being a lying two-timer.)
Got it? Stop shooting yourself in the foot with your profile. Now you might actually have a chance with her.
Belisa Vranich is a renowned clinical psychologist, author and public speaker. The former sex and health editor for Men’s Fitness magazine and Maxim radio co-host claims she’s not on Facebook.
Comments
I know my facebook rules, so no, mojo's finee. But when it comes to twitter, i dunno when and how to stop myself from sharing my life wiht others
these are pretty basic tips
How about growing up, for starters? Then again, you can be like me: I am not on Facebook; I am not on My Life; I am not on any social website, period! And I do fine with women; much, much better than my friends who are on every social website imaginable. I don't date women who spend their time on social websites, nor wear tattoos, nor watch stupid reality shows like Kardashian, Housewives, Jerseylicious or Jersey Shore. God, is there anything more boring than a woman who thinks those things are important?
Why even be on FaceBook seriously think about it. I have seen more relationships fucked up by Facebook than anything else. Think how much time is wasted on it. Why do we have to share every mundane detail of our life with half the world? Before cell phones, computers, and Facebook took over our lives. We maintained relationships face to face. We didn't break up with another via text messages or Facebook post. No we would tell them directly instead of being techno pussies. Fuck Facebook and maintain REAL RELATIONSHIPS.
never had an account on any social media website. never been one to follow the crowd, and date the same type. however, i've had a personal website up since the mid-90s. any woman who's not bright enough to find me on there isn't worth dating
What is face book? NERDS!!!
Men's life?? More like dweeb's life. This article is written at a third grade level in style and content. When your testes drop you will realize that real men don't bother with this asinine crappola.
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