Six Signs She’s Just Not That Into You

Yeah, they aren't into you, look at you stone faced when you say something humorous, can't find time for a date.  But, when you tell them you are moving on because she doesn't seem into you and it's not working, they get really angry anyway!  But, sometimes it just isn't worth it.  Go find a hottie that actually likes you, it's way more fun.

BITTER DUDE..LOOK UP.

That's why it is just better, easier, and more exciting to just cheat on them...they aren't worth the time and energy!

I have like this girl in church for three years. each time i see her,she is always by herself in church.She lost a aunt and uncle in a fire a fe months back,and i still saw no boyfriend.to make a long story short,we always smile and greet each other after church on sunday. but i never had the nerv to ask her out for fear of being turn down.So after church one sunday I follow her out to her car and ask if she would like to go out.she said sure.Gave me her number,and ask for mind. I call her that evening and left a message.then i tex her,and got a few words from her. I have call her time and still no call back from her. Then I just tex her monday to say good morning. She tex me back saying i did not see you in church yasterday. Says will talk after i get back from my trip from boston. Other saying good morning in church,im not going to call her anymore. I made the first move,Next move is on her. Am i right,or wrong for doing this?

I have been happily married for 6 years and my wife still has never laughed at anything I have said.

She does not want to be in any pics with you! Hey Guys, a simple idea should be adopted to save months, years or even a lifetime of grief and even restraining orders: no matter how desirable she is to you, if the sentiment is not returned make her UNDESIRABLE in your mind. Ugly her up in your mind. Don't be mad but let it go, it is what it is, no judgment of you, wish her well, people either fit together or they don't. Don't keep finding reasons why she just doesn't understand yet. Otherwise you'll talk yourself into it and will inevitably regret it at some point, shortly after the infatuation wears off.

@Caddyman6969: I think this is a mistake men make when they are interested in a women and don't realize kind of weird's us out. If you call a girl wait for her to call you back. If you text her within a day or two from the voice mail you left her it make us feel like you're being a bit pushy. Her short response to your text message is an indicator that this might have been her perception. Even more so if the girl just lost someone close to her and she is still grieving. So stick to either a call or text and wait for a response from either. If you don't get a repose then she is not interested. Another approach a man can take in your situation is a call or text to see how she is doing and if she may need anything r wants to go out for coffee just get out of the house. If she is still grieving she may just need someone to listen to her for a moment. That can be your chance to turn things around. If after that she doesn't return any of your messages then she is really not interested. Hope that helps.

they only want what they think they can't have and basically only nice to you when they feel like it

caddyman6969, Is this a serious post by you? You "Tex" her? Really? Do you mean you "Text" her? Here is my suggestion which I will write in a way you should understand:  Iff yew wan to get the gerl, you firs hav to lerne englis. Then wen youe tex her, she will say 'yeah. alrig, ok. I wil go on dayt weeth kandimann"

Don't hold on to someone who is on-the-fence about you. My ex and I shouldn't have stayed in our LTR as we weren't meant to be. After we broke up, we both found other people whom we married. If either one of you are forcing it, then you are wasting your valuable time which should be used for finding someone who loves you back.

Caddyman and those like him, Sounds like you both are playing a game if you stop and think about it. Man up and grow a pair. Ask simply and directly for a date with a specific date, time, and function in mind. You might be pleasantly surprised. At worst, you will know where you really stand. Ms.M comment above is crazy.. how can a normal person be weirded out by a call or text from a guy you gave your number to? Exchanging numbers is a direct invitation to communicate.  Caddyman above did not indicate any aggressive violation or stalking type behavior. It is the behavior of the girl that is stringing him along if she really is not intersted.  What do you think will happen if a guy asks for your number with a clear reference to going out? He will text or call and be puzzled when apparently being blown off.

I have totally given up on trying to find a woman. I have social anxiety disorder, so kicking up a random conversation with an unknown woman is a very hard task, and rejection is not easy to deal with. And, 9 times out of ten I get blown off. On that 10th girl, it just turns out she is not the personality I am looking for. I am just tired of trying, trying and trying but getting nothing in return. I am 30 now, if something doesn't happen for me by 32, that will be the end of it because I cannot stand the loneliness.

Go overseas and find a woman. So many US women are not worth your time. I got married when I turned 40 to a 32 year old Asian woman. I was tired of dealing with US women and their attitude, so I married a younger hotter foreigner. A lot of US women would say I'm a hot guy but they still give attitude, so I cut them off and outsourced.

It works both ways. A dude who is wishy-washy is someone who loses. I never had tolerance for the man who wanted everything planned FOR him, AKA lazy. If he makes no effort, do not give him your attention. Same with a woman--she should make an effort. If you're always doing everything, you're a patsy.

Some of it has been covered, but, I remember a comment an old girlfriend's mom made. "if a woman doesn't change any part of her lifestyle to fit you into it, you probably will not be in her life very long". In other words, a woman who IS in to you, will work to be available AND make changes to be a part of your life.

You guys need to have some game. Dating skills, like any other skills, can be developed. And soon, you will have women lining up for you. Check out geeksdating101.com to download a free E-book.

She can't remember your name or Sobriety birthday probably mean she really I mean really not that in to you..

I think women are more empowered now Due to receiving aa better education and career, and are less financially  dependent on men, thus lless interested in long tterm rrelationships . A bbyproduct of tthis phenomenon iis mmore hooking up and flings, and less commitment. @mike, it sounds like you need professional help, there are ways you can feel more ccomfortable and less awkward around women, and other ways to find them than the bar scene , you can change your cynical mindset overtime and gain confidence..

Mike, couldn't agree more. American Women are not worth the trouble. Too many good latinas and other foreign women. Any american man who has live and/or worked in other Countries will tell you the same. The problem is the majority of Amercian men just haven't been exposed to other cultures, and don't know whats out there.

@women have no heart!  There is help out there for you brother, don't give up. I don't know where you are but I promise you there are multitudes of churches that would be willing to help you. As a Psychologist I can tell you that there are many effect treatments for social awkwardness. Live your life as though you don't need to prove anything to anybody.  Trust yourself and ignore the haters, they aren't worth your time.

@steve-o: attitudes like that are the reason that relationships in our culture are so broken. People are afraid are to open up to each other because usually they have been hurt by people like you. 50% of marriages in America end in divorce because people are no longer interested in learning how to communicate. It has become easier  to just run away than to try to deal with any problems. A lot of good people end up getting hurt because they, or whoever they are with, can't admit that they are wrong.The world would be a much better place if people would actually open up to each other and stop just looking for a "quick thrill".

@Candyman Take it from a girl.. some girls want to be pursued a bit.. next time you see her at church give her a flower nothing over the top don't freak her out and don't seem desperate.  She probably is not too interested but its ok does not mean she won't be.  I've had lots of friends say alot of guys ask girls out but don't want to be different seems like just another conquest.  It may or may not work but at least you tried.  I once had a friend that told me she totally didn't like this guy and well this guy did not give up and they are happily married now with 2 kids.  He didn't stalk her just very sweetly won her over.. how about good ol' romance for a change ...

I agree, American women are just not worth the effort. I haven't found one that know's the meaning of honesty and integrity.

To Women have no heart!: Dont give up, and dont think that you have to be in such a rush, do little things to curb your lonliness, reach out and help somebody, you'll see how much you have inside that can make you feel better, it will flow out of your heart and you'll never look back on your lonely days, because in giving, you'll lose the memory of your lonely self.

In response to the 'women have no heart!' I'd just like to say to you,don't give up. Keep an open mind. Build your self confidence. Have you tried online dating resources? If you suffer from social anxiety you may find this to be a beneficial way to meet new people. Don't be so hard on yourself, and don't end your life at the age of 32 simply because you are not in a relationship. Hang in there, love is worth it.

Wow, #3 is spot on in my case. Except it was selling blood plasma, not getting blood drawn. So close though.

I agree,they don;t think the american woman is worth your time.you get her,what do you have.nothing but regrets.too much trouble,heartaches and a needness.that says,no way,your time is better spend by yourself.its better to be alone without ,than it is to have regrets with.

I agree that our spoiled over privileged American women can be a pain in the butt, but who's fault is it that they are that way? Ours. When you raise a "princess" that is what you get. A spoiled woman, with no domestic skills who is only concerned with herself. Go overseas and find a foreign woman, and I'm not talking west European either. Go to South America, or Asia, Eastern Europe. Somewhere they appreciate good men, because American women just don't get it.

speaking as a single widow woman thats write woman of 45 yrs old ,I have a hard time finding a single amn my age because they have so much bagage , alot of kids, a crazy ex no money and what me to suport them and there mess up in life . I am a black and would like to stay in my race but it is hard to find someone . That is why we turn you down we dont want any more drama !

Interesting the men who comment about outsourcing women for other countries/cultures/nationalities.  I feel exactly the same about most American men.  I find many to weak and insecure and lacking self confidence, not very attractive in a man, especially if you are a strong confident woman.  Confident European men and many other cultures appreciate those qualities in women and are threatened by them. Smart educated women are not looking for Baby Daddy's or men to support or be supported by.  We want somewhat equal partnerships - not necessarily income equals if we make more - but self confident men who can hold their own in self esteem. We don't want adult looking boys - which is often what you get in an American guy.

Women-Whew! I was stooopid. In my younger days, I played around too much. It was hard to choose. I didn't appreciate what was in front of me. Cut to 20 years later and 10 girls later- I regret letting a couple of good ones go. I bet some women are feeling it now. Don't drink too much-clouds the vision.

my girlfriend is married... I saw a photo album tonight! LOL They should add that as # 7

Tell her point blank how you feel and dont dick around

I don't know about the rest of you, but after the breakup of a bad marriage, I have found the most wonderful, loving, intelligent, beautiful, sexy, kind, faithful woman I could ever have imagined. Keep searching, and it will happen.

Holy crap, these aren't even subtle hints.  Even a nerd like me can figure that out.

this girl says she's not ready for a relationship but she just needs time and she wants me to wait. We're together almost everyday though and I'm really confused because she texts me tellin me she misses me and she can't wait to see me almost immediately after we go out. I think she's playing games and I'm getting sick of it. Is she not into me at all?

@Mike and Urmamma, you sound like real princes and I have two words for you about why these foreign women go for American men- green card.

Dating is sooo hard I live in a small city it makes it harder im not oposed to dating my heart would enjoy a flutter of compainionship but its just easier to be single right now for me anyway

You will be shocked to find how loving and caring foreign women are. They know how to treat a man without being selfish.

Stay Sane has the best idea yet. That is exactly what I do, and you know what? It works!

She's not into you, when she tucks her banana between her leggs and doesn't shave her face!!! Leaves her used kotex and tampons on your breakfast tray and serves you coffee from her douchebag!!! Takes all your money and puts a blowup doll in your bed!!! Feeds you TV dinners!!!

@caddyman6969... Next time after church just casually ask her out for a coffee right then.

to the men claiming that foreign women are better... those women wouldn't give you a second look if you couldn't get them a US visa/passport.  oh, wait, this must be that american woman attitude you can't handle. You call it attitude, I call it reality.

Just spent the w/e with the most sexy, cute, and nasty lady..and whom I have known for many years. And when she left back to the East Coast, I was in love. No photos at all taken of me, kept her distance the whole time, sarcastic, aloof, acted like I was not there most of the time, and tried to be as impersonal as possible. After a while, I realized I was in madly in lust, not love, and with a lady who might have even hated me. Goes to show the truth of that old saying....men are fools, and women are the devils advocates.

It seems like no one wants to try anymore. No effort. No loyalty. Just me me me ? mine mine mine. From a man's POV, it seems like females in this country are conditioned to reject first and reject second. Just chase one of the 4 good-looking rich guys that live in your city. Just make sure you expect them to be faithful with all the options they have. For the people that cry Green Card!!, I married a Latin woman that was born here but has strong cultural values that aren't like the selfish values taught here in the U.S. We get along better than great. We clash with selfish people. If men and women in this country cared about more than just themselves, there would be more successful relationships.

Well Duh, You are just so wise! You Know everything I'm quite sure. For those of us who have dated foreign women here is what we men hear. The men here are bastards, they only think of money, they are crass, undependable, rude, self serving, and treat women here like dogs. Now Duh, what I personally find interesting is that is exactly how I see American women. American women in the last 10 years are so full of s&it. Why don't you think about how to be a partner and helpmate without all this attitude. Maybe you could get your most recent glam shot out, go blow it up poster size with a few of the great quotes printed with your that's me poster. Cause that's the best companion you'll ever have.

Wow, my heart goes out. Divorced in mid-life, sweet but taught the old school ways, have a young son who I am completely rooting for, so I get all the nuances here. It's very hard. I wish I had all the solutions, but I just don't. I know it's hard to pursue women, and men, and I have fewer antswers than I did in the eighth grade. All said, I think it is important to treat women like they're hot, and just bite it if it doesn't work, but I understand the frustration. How about we just all we treat people with respect, and as if they're very attractive, and see where it leads us. I know it can be disheartening, but I have to believe the best is sticking with it. Giving up is a trap.

Why is it always the foreign women that seem to cut the dicks off of guys when they piss them off...hmmm

I am an Asian woman n I can understand why American men don't like American women n go for foreign women.  I feel American women are bossy, controlling in their relationships n not sincere. I live in San Francisco n I see many Caucasian men married w/Asian women.

She may be depressed. Feel like bad company. Give her open invitation to talk. Hard to be romantic when people feel deep guilt and loss.

I'm really into this chick that ive known for a couple of years now. We've gone on some dates and she's spent the night several times now. I'm pretty direct but I'm careful to not be pushy. I'm trying to get her to be more serious, in regards to us and making us exclusive. She says one thing but her actions dont back it up. Im getting to the point that its not worth the headaches but i really like her. We have great chemistry but all signs point to shes not ready for a relationship. I've shown my romantic side, agressive side, any other side there is! I dont have a problem dating and meeting women. This chick is something and I'm defintly hung up on. I'm stuck right now. Should just continue to be patient? Or should i just cut my losses? 

First marriage was a train wreck. Everything great while dating. After marriage, I couldn't understand why she lost interest in everything, including me, after 5-6 years. I didn't realize until years later that alcohol and Rx drugs had taken over her life. Later, I tried all these things to change her out-of-control behavior to "keep the marriage going". Waste of time. But I learned you can't change an addictive person... only they can change themselves. Dating after almost 20 years was, uh, challenging. But I knew early on with this one woman that we were right for each other. She returned calls, answered e-mails, even laughed at my jokes. We got married after 1-1/2 yrs., and THIS marriage is completely different. We both care for each other, look out for each other, don't blame one another for any problems that come up. PLUS she still thinks I'm funny, even after 5 years! She's pretty damned funny too. SO much better, so happy!

Most American women do not know what they want anymore, so why pursue them? Most men are either a) ignoring these type of women and doing their own thing, or b) finding a women who does not share the cultural taint and who values men. The easiest way to tell whether your time is well spent is listening to what she says in the first 5 minutes. If most of the conversation is me-me-me, you need to move on. In addition, most men that I know that do well with women do not pursue, they let women come to them. Since the "modern" woman has no clue what she wants, let her come to you.

........ wish I had not wasted so much time on materialistic, spoiled women and had sailed, fished, and studied more.

Why the men posting on here have trouble with relationships. Sounds like they all expect the women to bow down and kiss their feet.

o and most guys are so caught up in looking at women with fake everything that they are missing out on the bright intelligent loving real women that are out in america. then they wonder why she cheats or dumps him etc. Wow you really didn't see that comming? she is as fake as a barbie and you expect her to have REAL feelings for anything. Sorry but thats your own fault. And im not saying real women are ugly. They are in fact beautiful it takes looking through a different lense than our society endorses

I'm sorry, this may sound bad...but most attractive American women are only good for one thing...sex. It's just not worth it to try to pursue them into a relationship. They know they can manipulate guys, and they love having that power. The ones that do have boyfriends or husbands(and they are usually richer & good-looking) are in constant denial that they are either cheating all the time, or secretly into guys as well. Yes, there are so many of these guys that are bisexual and the girls are so stupid they don't even know. ....I have seen A LOT in my 36 years of being single, and having lots of revolving associations with attractive younger people.

Well as a women I can tel you it is important to not worry too much about how a women behaves. If she doesn't respond right away she is really busy...just keep calling until you get results, she will give in eventually, so DON'T EVER GIVE UP not matter what she does. Also, when she says "I am not ready for a relationship, what she means is "I am impressed with you, but I need to be sure you are gonna stick around...so KEEP CALLING HER, whe wants to make sure you are serious about doing something with her. I am no "relationship expert" but I know all about how all the attractive girls think.

If someone had to read this article to know a girl wasn't into him, then he didn't deserve a girlfriend in the first place.

if you want a decent woman, be a decent man.

best advice i can give you all is to look for an age appropriate girl that is of a similar level of attractiveness.